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Portrait of an Attachment Parented Three-Year-Old

When E turned two, I started this series to reflect on how an attachment parented child naturally grows in independence. While every child  is different (my three boys sure are), I hope that attachment parenting parents are encouraged to see that a bedsharing baby  will eventually do fine in his own space, a nursing toddler doesn’t  continue at the breast into high school, and a babyworn kiddo learns to walk, explore, and assert himself. 


Baby Bee E

Our Dear E at Age 3

You sleep in your own bed, a crib mattress on the floor in a room with your brother. You like to sleep with your baby and a lantern. Sometimes you like a parent to lay with you for a few minutes, but usually you just want your own space. You usually are aware of your tiredness and fall asleep easily and quietly, though some nights you do like to use your pass (“get out of bed free” card) to do spins in the living room. Your body seems to have a natural clock when it comes to sleep. You sleep through the night and wake up at 6:00 am, and you nap from 1:00-3:00 each afternoon.

You weaned from nursing at 26 months when my milk dried (I was 15 weeks pregnant). You were only nursing once per day so it was not a jarring transition. Since T was born 6 weeks ago, you sometimes ask to nurse again. This means a 1 second attempt before you move on.

Your favorite foods are baked oatmeal, dried apricots, and hot dogs (the last of which you get to eat far more rarely than you would like). You end just about every meal with mixing your remaining food together and dumping water on it or mushing it in your cup. We think this means you like to invent new recipes. You certainly do like to help us prepare meals.

You spend most of your time with a parent, big brother V, and now newborn baby T, but you do continue to spend one day each week with grandparents and another day at home with a babysitter. You love both of these special days in your week. You occasionally do things without V, but you ask about him the whole time you are apart. At church, you separate easily but are always glad to get picked up.

You really wanted to go to vacation bible school this summer even though you were a bit under the minimum age of 3. You worked for months to switch to using undies full-time so they would make an exception. (You had been running around bare-bum and using the potty for a long time, but adding underwear was a new dimension.)

You had not asked to be worn in a baby carrier for months until baby T was born. Now, you do ask to go “up high” around the house for a few minutes here and there.

You continue to spot animals before other people in the family and have an interest in nature. You love digging in the dirt pile, jumping on the trampoline, all things trucks, and reading books. Your favorite Bible story is David and Goliath.

Your favorite things to pray for are mama and baby T, but sometimes you want to say “poo poo, pee pee” many times before we pray to get the sillies out.

You tell me, “Mama, I like to be with you” several times each day. You like to watch out for my well-being, which was most apparent when we were holding hands while I was pregnant and I fell. You tried to help me up then, and, for days after, you insisted on holding my hand and to make sure I wouldn’t fall again.

You like to play “buddies” with V which involves various imaginative storylines where you two work a job together (firefighters, repair team in a cherry picker, trash truck, etc.). You sometimes initiate play by pinching, biting, or destroying V’s projects, but you are growing in your ability to use your words to invite him to play.

With baby T, you like to squeeze his arm, look at his face (which sometimes involves moving him, which we discourage), and tell me when he says, “wah”. 

You adore rough play with daddy which typically involves using a very specific pink pillow to whack him. With me, you like to chase me and take me to jail (your bed) and then snuggle.

You like to wear mismatched socks and rain boots and love to dress up in construction and firefighter costumes, but really any costume will do.

You love to make up stories and sing songs to yourself. You can speak in sentences and paragraphs but will default to singing to participate in a conversation at times when you don’t know what to say or are tired. Out-and-about you are usually very quiet and observe with a neutral face that sometimes others perceive at sadness. You put a hand over your face to shield yourself when you feel overwhelmed in social situations. At home, you are much more smiley and talkative and recount even tiny details of something we did together. (Though if everyone else likes something, you’ll make a passionate case for not liking it even if you’ve previous liked it.) Your observations are fascinating, so when you choose to relay a story, we hang on to every precious word you speak.

Three years have now passed since your lovely entrance into our family, and we celebrate the person you are.  We love you, dear E.


About More Green for Less Green

Hi, I’m Pamm. Welcome to my little slice of the web! As a progressive Evangelical female pastor and crunchy homeschooling mom, I’m never quite what anyone expects of me. But, hey, that’s what makes blogging interesting, right? Join me as I try to wholeheartedly parent my three little boys, slowly fix up the trashed foreclosure we bought in 2009, and live simply.

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